❔ Finding yourself ❔

Tell me about yourself

When being asked who you are, can you really explain indepth?

/Understanding others is knowledge, understanding oneself is enlightenment; conquering others is power while conquering oneself is strength/

Before we want to understand others, we must first understand ourselves. Some of us like to keep things bottled up inside while some would express their unhappiness and share with others. Be it introvert or extrovert, we should be sensitive to others feeling but consider our own too.

Sometimes we might not understand ourselves well as compared to those close around us that have witness our growth, improvements and progress as we grow. They may think that they know you well but somehow it is just the outer cover to hide your real personality or feeling inferior to others. Take some time to breathe and relax having time to yourself is important as it allows you to think through what you really want to achieve in life and learning to love yourself before others. How many of us actually put ourselves before others? 

It can get exhausting always putting other people happiness and problems before yourself. It is totally okay to want to be alone for awhile and take time to recover before moving on and continuing the journey that brings you happiness. People change, but most of the time we don't know the reason why as we never truly understand or gone through what they did. Put yourself in their shoes and think from each other perspective maybe it would broaden your mind and enlighten your thoughts. 

When you are feeling upset what motivates you and cheer you up? music?friends? brace yourself no matter what challenges you face, life is always full of ups and down so just have to tell yourself all will be fine and time will slowly heal the problem. Ever got tired of replying text messages, calls and not wanting to do anything except the things you feel like? yes, sometimes we tend to hide in our comfort zone and it isn't wrong to do so. Most of us would want to feel loved, appreciate and respected the same way as you treat others thus bringing happiness to others could be placed as priority but never forget about YOU. YOU are important to others too even though some may not say or show but know that you are not alone.

If you were given time alone, what are some things you want to do or places to visit? Staying away from negative vibes and retaining positive vibes can also bring joy with friends sending you a simple message or long message knowing that you are not feeling okay but giving you encouragement and time to stand back up as some might not express themselves well and not telling you what is happening around which may make you wonder if you did anything wrong but you just cannot understand when you read the last conversation they were alright to you?

Somehow your strength can also be your weakness for example, being able to multitask is an essential skill but if you cannot maybe you can focus strictly on one tasks only but completing it perfectly and meeting the requirement which may not be bad. Always look at a different approach and things may not be as bad as what you think. 

Never assume you really know someone extremely well even if they share their secrets with you because the real feeling is within them and some can control their emotions well which is why appear strong and never falter in front of others but might cry to themselves at night when the pressure takes a great hit without wanting to worry others. 

Happiness isn't easy to achieve, but it is not impossible.